MAPPC - Mother's Against Peein' and Poopin' on the Carpet
I recently posted about my frustration with my 3 year old who has taken to peeing (and sometimes pooping) on the carpet on the Mom's Talk Forum. If you read that post, you'll see that I'm not alone. This seems to be a worldwide toddler/preschooler epidemic.
What are we going to do about it moms?
I'm trying not to make a big deal out of it when he does it, but it's tough not to react when our dinner is interrupted by waterfalls on the dining room chair or when we're snuggling on the coach and he pees on me.
I recently asked him, "Are you doing this by accident or on purpose?" and he admitted it was on purpose. Clearly, it's a call for attention, but it doesn't just happen when he's feeling ignored and I'm not sure how to give him the assurance he needs.
When he goes to the bathroom, I'm trying to give him more praise and encouragement, so we'll so how it goes.
What are we going to do about it moms?
I'm trying not to make a big deal out of it when he does it, but it's tough not to react when our dinner is interrupted by waterfalls on the dining room chair or when we're snuggling on the coach and he pees on me.
I recently asked him, "Are you doing this by accident or on purpose?" and he admitted it was on purpose. Clearly, it's a call for attention, but it doesn't just happen when he's feeling ignored and I'm not sure how to give him the assurance he needs.
When he goes to the bathroom, I'm trying to give him more praise and encouragement, so we'll so how it goes.
posted by Alice at 1:09 PM
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I dunno Alice... what would SuperNanny say? ;)
I think there is a big difference between a 2 year old having an accident and a trained child doing it on purpose. My .02
Unfortunately I am also a member of MAPPC. My nearly 3 year old has also admitted to me that he's doing this on purpose. I'm hoping this stage will pass and I can give up my MAPPC membership to another poor mom out there! Not sure what to do except wait it out....
What do your instincts tell you?
If inside you're screaming, "Grosss!!!" but outside you're being all sweetness and light about it, you're not teaching your child that your wishes are important.
Who is cleaning up the mess? Even if the child is, you still have to go back after him and do a proper job, no?
I think I would put some consequences in to place here. Cleaning up after an older child's mess would leave me very resentful and self-sacrifice, in this case, is bad for your relationship.
"Only babies pee and poop on the carpet, so if you do that again, you may not (insert activity that child enjoys) anymore. That's an activity for big boys."
That's what we've done. He's lost privileges for doing it.
We've actually had 3 full days of clean carpets. I'm not actually sure if it's the privilege thing that made him stop because he's not very motivated by those things.
But I was sick for a week and pretty dead some of those days, so it might have been a desire for attention because of that. Every day, he'd ask me if I was feeling better. He was very sweet about it, but I think he was asking, so he could get his Mommy back.
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