Son, please don't break girls hearts - Part One

Several years back my son and I had a real heart to heart about girls. He was twelve at the time and one of his friends was going through heart break number two already. Even my young son could see that there was something destructive about the way that this kid fell in love so deeply and ended up so crushed later.

I told my son, 'One of two things are likely to happen' when young teens get into 'deep relationships' (And I'm not talking about sex either.)

Either she get's her heart broken or he does.

Thirteen, fourteen year old girls and boys just don't have the emotional strength to handle having intense relationships. About all they can handle is a gentle case of puppy love and even that has to be handled with tender loving care by both parties or trauma is sure to come.

I remember having a very serious crush on one of my brother's friends. He could have responded any number of mean or terrible ways. He could have made fun of me or taken advantage of me... instead he pretty much ignored me. In a kind sort of way. As much as it pained me to be ignored when I was so obviously made for him, I can look back on that incident of puppy love with fondness.

I can only wish that for every young girl.

Sadly, that isn't always how it turns out.

I just don't want a young girls heart to be broken at the hands of my son.

More later :)