Son, please don't break girls hearts - Part Two

I have a theory about teenage dating and it is that for the most part it is just an accident waiting to happen. I'm all for teens having a thriving social life. I just don't think it's healthy in the long run for teens to develop deep relationships and to be 'going steady'.

If you think about it, all teenage dating trains you for is divorce. It teaches you that you stay together as long as it's fun and when it's not, you break up.

There is a young man I have observed over the last three years. He's a good kid. He's never taken advantage of a young girl sexually. But he has 'fallen in love' with her and confessed that love to her and everyone else around that will listen. He spent all his money on her and spent all his time on her.

Then he woke up one morning and wasn't in love with her anymore so he broke it off.

And a week later he was in love with someone else.

Teenagers are just not good stewards of this commodity called love.

The young girl who he had professed his undying love to last week is now left wondering what is wrong with her? And this can go both ways. Girls can be just as fickle and thoughtless with the love word as a boy can.

This is why I'm encouraging Sean to keep that love word to himself and simply enjoy a friendship.

This is how I see it. If you do happen to have found the love of your life - she'll still be there in a few years. And if it turns out that she isn't your cup of tea, you won't have fooled around with a young girls affections.

And no, you don't have to 'date' to find this out. You learn more about a person from friendship than dating any day of the week. The minute it's a date - well, you know.. the best behavior comes out. (For awhile at least)

Still more thoughts to come...