Does Being a Mom Mean Having No Life?
That’s what forum member, Kris asked other members a few days ago. You can join the thread here => Does Being Mom Mean No Life?
It is hard to do all the things you once envisioned yourself doing, before you had kids. Sometimes it’s easy to lose yourself and become so enthralled in your family and being a mom and wife that we tend to forget or in some cases resent the fact that we may never accomplish all the things we thought we once could.
I think every Mother has put at least one life dream on the back burner and most times it’s ok, because we don’t lose our life when you have kids, we just take on a different kind of life.
We become Mom first and foremost, but that shouldn’t stop us from being ourselves too. Sure, we might not get to cross off every single thing we had on our “To Do Before I Die” list, but we can replace some of the sans kids dreams, with even bigger and better ones now. The best part is we now have someone to share it all with.
I know none of us would change being a Mom for the world, but it is hard to still be the women we once were. It may be difficult, but it is not impossible. It just takes a bit more planning, creativity, flexibility and compromising. And we’re moms, so we’ve got it those things down pat now right?
What do you do to be the best Mom you can be without completely losing who you are in the process?
It is hard to do all the things you once envisioned yourself doing, before you had kids. Sometimes it’s easy to lose yourself and become so enthralled in your family and being a mom and wife that we tend to forget or in some cases resent the fact that we may never accomplish all the things we thought we once could.
I think every Mother has put at least one life dream on the back burner and most times it’s ok, because we don’t lose our life when you have kids, we just take on a different kind of life.
We become Mom first and foremost, but that shouldn’t stop us from being ourselves too. Sure, we might not get to cross off every single thing we had on our “To Do Before I Die” list, but we can replace some of the sans kids dreams, with even bigger and better ones now. The best part is we now have someone to share it all with.
I know none of us would change being a Mom for the world, but it is hard to still be the women we once were. It may be difficult, but it is not impossible. It just takes a bit more planning, creativity, flexibility and compromising. And we’re moms, so we’ve got it those things down pat now right?
What do you do to be the best Mom you can be without completely losing who you are in the process?
posted by Alice at 5:02 PM
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I remind myself all the time that parenting is intense for the first 20 years but then, they're grown and even if they're still really involved in your life and they need your guidance, you still have your own life/marriage/etc to deal with.
It's not easy for a mom to take time to think about this in the hubbub of daily life though.
But I'm determined that I won't suffer when my kids fly the coop, I have always been happy alone because I'm never bored. I'll have more time then to revisit interests that have been on that back burner.
I do feel that I have time for me. And my son does recognize that space and time.
Before you know, they'll be off on their own.
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