Mommy Wars - Don't They Know?
I'm about sick of hearing all this "Mommy Wars" crap. For one, why does the media love to add fuel to this fire? Is it the age old thing about people loving to see a catfight?
Secondly, it just makes me sick that Oprah, of all people, is jumping on the bandwagon and hosting an episode on this topic. Can't people just leave Elizabeth Vargas alone? So what if she's all blissed out on lactation hormones and doesn't want to leave her baby? Why does she have to make some kind of feminist "statement"? Isn't the point for women to have choices?
Of course, the show airs tomorrow so obviously I haven't seen it and can't pass judgment (I never watch Oprah and certainly won't be tuning in tomorrow because I just know I'll need a barf bag handy, as I always do when Oprah talks about motherhood!).
Thirdly, why doesn't anyone ever mention that women don't HAVE to choose between working for money and being with their kids? Why are work at home options never mentioned on these shows? In my opinion, it's simply because people are only interested in fighting for the sake of arguing. They don't really want to reach consensus or do what's best for the kids, they just want to argue their position.
Secondly, it just makes me sick that Oprah, of all people, is jumping on the bandwagon and hosting an episode on this topic. Can't people just leave Elizabeth Vargas alone? So what if she's all blissed out on lactation hormones and doesn't want to leave her baby? Why does she have to make some kind of feminist "statement"? Isn't the point for women to have choices?
Of course, the show airs tomorrow so obviously I haven't seen it and can't pass judgment (I never watch Oprah and certainly won't be tuning in tomorrow because I just know I'll need a barf bag handy, as I always do when Oprah talks about motherhood!).
Thirdly, why doesn't anyone ever mention that women don't HAVE to choose between working for money and being with their kids? Why are work at home options never mentioned on these shows? In my opinion, it's simply because people are only interested in fighting for the sake of arguing. They don't really want to reach consensus or do what's best for the kids, they just want to argue their position.
Okay,
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posted by Carrie Lauth at 11:47 AM
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Carrie
Amen to that!!!! It's the same reason why people are so enthuisastic about Rosie vs Donald or why Borat was the #1 rated movie for however long. It is simply because like to see people being mean to one another and/or arguing about things that don't amount to a hill of beans in reality.
Getting off the soapboax now,
Tammy
This Canadian doesn't even know what you're talking about. Sounds serious!
Ah, I went to the Oprah site to see what the show was going to be about. How this news anchor had to make an excruciating decision. *sigh* - yes it's a tough choice, but I don't see it as a matter of choosing one life and having to miss out on something else. I don't know, they make a comment "Can women really have it all?" As if not having a career means you are in some kind of "lesser" category because you don't "have it all."
Just figure out what it is you really WANT in your life and find out how to make it work. Some women want one or the other, some want both. I'd like to know what's turned it into such an excruciating decision this day in age when it wasn't before.
I read that too, but what specifically are the "Mommy Wars"? Who is warring?
Also, I agree - feminism to me means or should mean CHOICE and deciding what's right for you and your family. A feminist who belittles a mom for staying home to care for her kids is missing the whole point. I thought we (figuratively speaking) were all sisters here?
Alice, the mommy wars refers to the debate about staying home with kids or going out to work.
http://mommywars.net/
Okay, so Mommy Wars is a book. And are there other mothers "warring" these stay-at-home mothers and saying that they shouldn't stay home? Or is it just a dramatic title for stories from women who feel like they have to justify their choice?
LOL...sorry, I'm so dense.
Women who stay home nowadays seem to be looked down on rather than celebrated. Several times I've had a fellow "sister" and mother on her climb up the corporate ladder look down on me because i'm home with my kids.
It's sad that often times it's women looking down on other women... that's never going to help is it.
BTW Carrie when I started reading this post I so knew it was written by you...before looking at the name :-)
I watched part of that Oprah episode (about last half), but I didn't see any working mom look down on a stay-at-home mom, but I definitely saw the opposite where a stay-at-home mom made judgment on women who decided to work.
I thought Oprah did a very good job, Carrie. I think it's an important issue and understanding different points of view and experience is good.
Women should be able to make a choice and not be looked down upon because of that choice. I frequent a different blog about nannys and women on there are forever debating who's better, the mom that stays home or the mom that hires a nanny to watch her child(ren). I think each person has their own situation in mind and its is their CHOICE, not anyone elses.
People are too quick to judge and criticize each other, we should all be working together to raise happy, open minded, and well balanced children.
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