18 and Moving Out
It's funny how lots of kids think that once they turn 18 they should be able to do whatever they want even if they live at home with mom and dad. To me, 18 is not a "magic" number that suddenly makes you an adult, although, by law you are considered as such. In my eyes, simply turning 18 doesn't necessarily give you the right to be "treated as an adult" if you don't act like one.
I don't have anything against 18 year olds wanting their independence and wanting to do things on their own. Hey, I'm actually even for it. BUT, don't demand the right to have all the freedom of being an adult if you aren't going to also take all the responsibility that comes along with it.
It drives me nuts when young men and women think they no longer have to listen to any of mom and dads rules, yet expect them to continue to provide spending money, buy school supplies, buy clothes, put a roof over their head, provide food for them on a daily basis, pay for their cell phone, pay for prom, pay for senior pictures, pay for gas, pay for car insurance, etc, etc, etc. If mom and dad are still doing ALL of that for you, you most definitely should still abide by their rules. If you don't like their rules and want your freedom and want to do what you want when you want just like an adult, that's totally fine, but be ready to also take full responsibility for being an adult and providing for yourself as well. It just cracks me up when they say, "I'm moving out because I don't like the rules" then they call home every week because they need money or clothes or some other "real world" necessity.
Just the two cents of a mom who will one day have quite a few kids make the passage from "youth" to "adult" at the age of 18.
I don't have anything against 18 year olds wanting their independence and wanting to do things on their own. Hey, I'm actually even for it. BUT, don't demand the right to have all the freedom of being an adult if you aren't going to also take all the responsibility that comes along with it.
It drives me nuts when young men and women think they no longer have to listen to any of mom and dads rules, yet expect them to continue to provide spending money, buy school supplies, buy clothes, put a roof over their head, provide food for them on a daily basis, pay for their cell phone, pay for prom, pay for senior pictures, pay for gas, pay for car insurance, etc, etc, etc. If mom and dad are still doing ALL of that for you, you most definitely should still abide by their rules. If you don't like their rules and want your freedom and want to do what you want when you want just like an adult, that's totally fine, but be ready to also take full responsibility for being an adult and providing for yourself as well. It just cracks me up when they say, "I'm moving out because I don't like the rules" then they call home every week because they need money or clothes or some other "real world" necessity.
Just the two cents of a mom who will one day have quite a few kids make the passage from "youth" to "adult" at the age of 18.
posted by Stacie at 10:18 PM
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I completely agree! All though 18 did seem like a 'magic' number to me WAY back when. I remember always telling my mom I can't wait until I'm 18 because then you can't tell me what I can and can't do....LOL. Oh if only I had listened to her when I thought I was such an ADULT and ready to make so many decisions on my own.
I think that the rule 'if you are living under my roof then you'll follow my rules' is a good rule regardless of age (well I guess if you're in your 30's living at home that's a bit different).
They leave when they're ready to take care of themselves. But hopefully that will be before our son is in his 30's.
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